Book Review: I’m Still Here Black Dignity In A World Made For Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown

“White people desperately want to believe that only the lonely, isolated “whites only” club members are racist. This is why the word racist offends “nice white people” so deeply. It challenges their self-identification as good people. Sadly, most white people are more worried about being called racist than about whether or not their actions are in fact racist or harmful.”

Rating: 5/5

Genres: Non-Fiction, Anti-Racist, Social Justice, Memoir,

Warnings: Racism

Book Description (from Goodreads): Austin Channing Brown’s first encounter with a racialized America came at age 7, when she discovered her parents named her Austin to deceive future employers into thinking she was a white man. Growing up in majority-white schools, organizations, and churches, Austin writes, “I had to learn what it means to love blackness,” a journey that led to a lifetime spent navigating America’s racial divide as a writer, speaker and expert who helps organizations practice genuine inclusion.

In a time when nearly all institutions (schools, churches, universities, businesses) claim to value “diversity” in their mission statements, I’m Still Here is a powerful account of how and why our actions so often fall short of our words. Austin writes in breathtaking detail about her journey to self-worth and the pitfalls that kill our attempts at racial justice, in stories that bear witness to the complexity of America’s social fabric–from Black Cleveland neighborhoods to private schools in the middle-class suburbs, from prison walls to the boardrooms at majority-white organizations.

For readers who have engaged with America’s legacy on race through the writing of Ta-Nehisi Coates and Michael Eric Dyson, I’m Still Here is an illuminating look at how white, middle-class, Evangelicalism has participated in an era of rising racial hostility, inviting the reader to confront apathy, recognize God’s ongoing work in the world, and discover how blackness–if we let it–can save us all.

Review: This book is not meant to comfort white people and if you’re white, this will probably make you uncomfortable at times. But change and making fundamental changes to ideas that have been ingrained in white culture is uncomfortable…but it is needed. Owning your white privilege is a hard pill to swallow. Racism is so ingrained in our culture and some of us don’t even realize it. I’m Still Here is written to share the black experience of one women and this is a phenomenal memoir. A short and impactful book, that shows you to never assume what you “think” someone is going through day-to-day.

Austin Channing Brown is a gifted speaker, writer and communicator. She shared stories about how even her name changes and challenges people’s assumptions about her. She shares the micro-aggressions she experiences in an average day. She shares how even places that are “committed” to diversity in the workplace, really have no interest in making the fundamental changes needed to actually be diverse and inclusive.

The most impactful section for me was exploring the difference between white fragility and taking ownership of your own basis and racism. Don’t ignore that, basis and internalized racism is in you and in the people you love. I’ve observed that in my own interactions, we are often so taken aback by being called out for racism that instead of owning it, we retreat into our own white privilege and are offended that someone would tell us…that “it” was racist. This quote really struck me, because it is true. We are so quick to say, “no, I’m not racist” and maybe you aren’t but you have beliefs in stereotypes and ideas that are racist.

“White people desperately want to believe that only the lonely, isolated “whites only” club members are racist. This is why the word racist offends “nice white people” so deeply. It challenges their self-identification as good people. Sadly, most white people are more worried about being called racist than about whether or not their actions are in fact racist or harmful.”

Ask yourself, why have we politicized a movement to stop racism? Why are people offended by the simplicity of Black Lives Matter? Because it challenges your whiteness and the power it has held…If not, really ask yourself why it makes you uncomfortable.

I urge everyone to read this book. Read. Listen. Learn. Educate.

Love,

A

Book Review: Shipped by Angie Hockman

Rating: 4/5

Genre: Contemporary Romance and Adult Fiction

Warnings: Loss of a parent, sexism in the workplace, discussion of drowning and discussion of abuse

Read if you liked: The Unhoneymooners and the Ex Talk

Travel agency marketing manager, Henley Evans is all work and no play. When she’s shortlisted for the promotion of her dreams, all of her sacrifices finally seem worth it. There however is a bit of a problem, Graeme Crawford-Collins, her workplace “enemy”, is also up for the position. Although he works remotely, their email battles are the stuff of office gossip.

Their boss determines that the best way to decide who gets the promotion is to have them go on a company cruise to the Galápagos Islands together…and the best new strategy wins. When the two finally meet, Henley is shocked to learn that Graeme is nothing like she thought. As they explore the Islands together, she soon finds the line between hate and love is thinner than she thought.

I heard about Shipped in bookclub, it was the March pick…I didn’t however get to it until April. If the Unhoneymooners and the Ex Talk had a baby, it would be this book. Enemies to lovers romance but set in paradise, we love to see it. The setting was also unique, I had never thought much of the Galápagos until now and I want to go! While this was an enemies to lovers book, the characters weren’t super childish/immature which I find to be common in this trope.

Shipped was a good, easy beach read and the characters were relatable to me. Henley is obsessed with her career but is also a hard worker who is learning how to balance life and family (I have been there so many times in my life). Graeme is trying to put the pieces back together in his life after loss (also relatable). What I loved the most and these two supporting each other in this journey.

Things I loved: Henley pivoting in her career + family life, Graeme was literally so kind, the humor was on point for me and getting to know more about the Galápagos.

Things I didn’t care for: The cringe-worthy boss situation, which I know was needed for the story but I also just hate the sexist boss no matter what.

Is Shipped on your list?

Love,

A

Book Review: One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston

Rating: 3/5

Genre: Contemporary Romance, Adult Fiction, LGBTQ and Science Fiction

Warnings: Discussion of grief of loved one, anxiety, homophobia and racism

Review: August is as cynical as can be and moving to New York City is supposed to prove her right: love doesn’t exist and she is destined to be alone. But could all of that change with some unique roommates, a job at a 24-hour pancake house and her subway commute? Enter in Jane, a charming and quite mysterious girl on the Q train. Jane with her rough edges and leather jacket saves August’s day when she needs it most. Soon, August’s subway crush becomes the best part of her day…then she discovers that Jane displaced in time from the 1970s. Of course, August has to figure out why and how…it might just connect back to her own childhood.

First off, I actually screamed when I got this ARC…Red, White and Royal Blue is one of my favorite fiction books. I was READY for Casey McQuiston’s next book but also slightly worried I would not love it as much…and I was right. This was cute and unique story, I loved the time travel add-in. But I was a little disappointed that I didn’t love it and I kept thinking it would get better. What I loved about RWARB was the banter and the clear connection between the main characters. This was missing for me for me in Jane and August. I got lost in a lot of context information, not enough plot and then bam we are at the end…cool, which the end by the way was great! It was a solid “okay” book for me. If you are going into this expecting RWARB, this is vastly different book and that’s okay! I probably would have had a better appreciation if I weren’t going in thinking about that.

Things I loved: The side characters were gold, queer representation and the New York setting. It was not your typical rom-com book and those are my favorite!

Things I didn’t care for: The lack of connection between the characters and overall execution of the plot…it really dragged on and it took me a week to finish it.

One Last Stop is released on June 1st. Thank you NetGalley for providing this ARC for my honest opinion.

Love,

A

Week in Review: 3.30-4.5

My week, in review. This is a short and sweet weekly update with ratings and blurb. If they are getting their own review, I’ll share it there!

Happy Monday! Does anyone forget how exhausting the Monday is after a holiday weekend? I am so tired, but honestly it’s been a great week! I got dose two of my COVID vaccine, furniture that has been backordered has arrived, I ate some really good gluten-free brownies and this coming week I am going to visit my family. Yay for fully vaccinated humans!

I only read 4 books this week, which felt a little light (for me) and I am sure this coming week is going to be about the same! I am looking forward to getting to read People We Meet on Vacation which is in my BOTM box and Life’s Too Short + the Intimacy Experiment which arrives tomorrow!

Greenlights – 4.5/5 McConaughey is a master storyteller…and these are very original stories. Be prepared to laugh, a lot. Full review here!

The Dating Plan – 4/5 Fake dating + a second chance romance. I am here for it! I liked this one so much more than the Marriage Game.

Shipped – 4/5 Unhoneymooners + the Ex Talk vibes. Enemies to lovers and set it paradise. This one was super cute!

One Last Stop (not pictured) – 3/5 ARC from NetGalley, thank you for providing for my honest opinion. Full review coming tomorrow.

See you next week!

Love,

A

All Time Five Star Reads

Do you have some favorite five star reads? These are my gold! They are books that really left me thinking, with a book hangover or just good happy feels. This isn’t a rating (4.5 or 5), I give out often but if I do…I’m going to keep telling you to read it. If we know each other in real life, this book will show up at your doorstep.

I also keep my book list up to date and it’s a great place to look at every book I have ever given a three to five star rating.

Fiction:

I wouldn’t call all of these literary fiction. I love a good RomCom because they make me happy and books should bring you joy. Flawed human beings, dealing with life and falling in love is my kind of happy. I also love a good friendship or family orientated story, those loves are just as imporant in life!

A Brush with Love by Mazey Eddings (March 2022 pub date)

After I Do by Taylor Jenkins Reid

Dear Emmie Blue by Lia Louis

Ever After Always by Chloe Liese

Float Plan by Trish Doller

Forever, Interrupted by Taylor Jenkins Reid

How to Fail at Flirting by Denise Williams

In Five Years by Rebecca Serle

Just Last Night by Mhairi McFarlane

Life’s Too Short by Abby Jimenez

More Than Words by Jill Santopolo

My Favorite Half-Night Stand by Christina Lauren

My Oxford Year by Julia Whelan

One True Loves by Taylor Jenkins Reid

People We Meet on Vacation by Emily Henry

Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston

Roomies by Christina Lauren

The Boys’ Club by Erica Katz

The Dinner List by Rebecca Serle

The Happy Ever After Playlist by Abby Jimenez

The Heir Affair by Heather Cocks and Jessica Morgan

The House in the Cerulean Sea by T.J. Klune

The Idea of You by Robinne Lee

The Intimacy Experiment by Rosie Danan

The Lies That Bind by Emily Giffin

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig

The Royal We by Heather Cocks and Jessica Morgan

The Soulmate Equation by Christina Lauren

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid

The Star-Crossed Sisters of Tuscany by Lori Nelson Spielman

The Unhoneymooners by Christina Lauren

Verity by Colleen Hoover

Yes & I Love You by Roni Loren

Non-Fiction:

Most of my non-fiction are of a memior or political way…I value open and honest discourse about politics and social commentary but let’s make sure we are being kind. I tend to “read” memoirs via audiobook. It makes me feel more connected to the person and their story. I also like to have the book handy so I can read parts of it over again for clarification!

A Promised Land by Barack Obama

Becoming by Michelle Obama

Born a Crime by Trevor Noah

Born to Shine by Ashley LeMieux

End of White Politics: How to Heal Our Liberal Divide by Zerlina Maxwell

Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey

I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown

No Happy Endings by Nora McInerny

Promise Me, Dad by Joe Biden

Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man by Emmanuel Acho

See you later,

A

*This post was updated in June 2021 new books.

Book Review: Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey

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“Now, twenty-eight years later, those words follow me everywhere. People say them. People steal them. People wear them on their hats and T-shirts. People have them tattooed on their arms. And I love it. It’s an honor. Because those three words are the very first words I said on the very first night of a job I had that I thought might be nothing but a hobby, but it turned into a career.”

Rating: 4.5/5

Genres: Non-Fiction, Memoir, Personal Development

Book Description (from Goodreads): From the Academy Award®–winning actor, an unconventional memoir filled with raucous stories, outlaw wisdom, and lessons learned the hard way about living with greater satisfaction

I’ve been in this life for fifty years, been trying to work out its riddle for forty-two, and been keeping diaries of clues to that riddle for the last thirty-five. Notes about successes and failures, joys and sorrows, things that made me marvel, and things that made me laugh out loud. How to be fair. How to have less stress. How to have fun. How to hurt people less. How to get hurt less. How to be a good man. How to have meaning in life. How to be more me.

Recently, I worked up the courage to sit down with those diaries. I found stories I experienced, lessons I learned and forgot, poems, prayers, prescriptions, beliefs about what matters, some great photographs, and a whole bunch of bumper stickers. I found a reliable theme, an approach to living that gave me more satisfaction, at the time, and still: If you know how, and when, to deal with life’s challenges – how to get relative with the inevitable – you can enjoy a state of success I call “catching greenlights.”

So I took a one-way ticket to the desert and wrote this book: an album, a record, a story of my life so far. This is fifty years of my sights and seens, felts and figured-outs, cools and shamefuls. Graces, truths, and beauties of brutality. Getting away withs, getting caughts, and getting wets while trying to dance between the raindrops.

Review: I didn’t think to read this book, I’m not a celebrity memoir person but then I heard Matthew speaking on two podcasts I regularly listen to (Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard + Sibling Revelry with Kate and Oliver Hudson) and I was really intrigued! McConaughey is a master storyteller….and these are very original stories. Be prepared to laugh, a lot.

I learned so much about him, things you would never know if you only know him from his RomCom days. His journey is fascinating and he is so much more than you expect. He is an adventurer, a philosopher and one hell of a go-getter. I read this book, in a physical format…I am sure it will be amazing via audio but the book is filled with images and notes from over the years. It puts a nice spin on the reading experience.

Check it out!

Love,

A

Most Anticipated April Releases

Can you believe tomorrow is April 1st…of 2021? It’s insane that we have been in quarantine mode of over a year. I am really excited about some books being released this coming month, some have been pre-ordered forever and some I am on the list at the library for! I can tell that April is going to be a great reading month already.

April 6

April 13

April 20

April 27

Have you pre-ordered any of these? Did I miss one I need to know about?

Love,

A

Book Review: Yes & I Love You by Roni Loren

Rating: 4.5/5

Genre: Contemporary Romance and Adult Fiction

Warnings: Anxiety, anti-neurodivergency, foster care and abandonment

Read if you liked: The Kiss Quotient and The Dating Plan

Review:  Hollyn Tate is the face behind Miz Poppy, a spirited online reviewer who talks about NOLA nightlife. But behind the scenes, Hollyn is filled with anxiety that keeps her isolated from social interaction. When suddenly faced with the prospect of having to give her reviews on camera or lose her job, she takes help from an unexpected source…enter Jasper Deares, an improv actor + resident coffee guy, who’s trying to figure out life. Jasper offers to help Hollyn become more confident in her own skin and maybe she ends up helping him just as much.

This was such a nice unexpected read and hit the spot. This isn’t a book that I have heard much about but I think we should be talking about it! I really enjoyed how kind these characters were to each other. The book also talked about Tourette’s, abandonment + entrance into the foster system and handled sensitive topics of bullying, anxiety and accepting one’s self.

It’s also pretty steamy and I was so not expecting it…they did good!

Things I loved: Hollyn truly is a badass…I’m so proud of her and I don’t even “know” her. The couple helped each other grow. Jasper was in tune with Hollyn’s anxieties and was her number one supporter. Neurodivergent representation…I have not seen this in a book before and we need more!

Things I didn’t care for: Cal’s character, who at times, felt like he was gaslighting/emotionally manipulating Hollyn.

What If You & Me is the second installment which follows Andi’s story…Can’t wait for this one, comes out on July 6th!

Love,

A

Week in Review: 3.23-3.29

My week, in review. This is a short and sweet weekly update with ratings and blurb. If they are getting their own review, I’ll share it there!

Happy Monday! This week has been a doozy, DNF’d two books but totally fell in love with the fake-dating romance because there were three (yes, three) this week…it was not planned and I think I am okay with it! I would like to fall in love with a fake boyfriend now, please and thank you.

On a high note, I recieved the ARC for One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston and my excitment is very evident! Can’t wait to talk about it next week once I finish.

I’m Still Here: Black Dignity In A World Made For Whiteness – 5/5 I first read this book about a year ago, it was a five star read for me and continues to be. The perfect mix of memoir and anti-racism education. Full review coming soon!

The Ex Talk – 4/5 This cute romance is set in public radio and has all the tropes; fake dating, enemies to lovers and younger man/older woman. Full review here.

Yes & I Love You – 4.5/5 This book was so wonderfully unexpected and I can’t wait to review it later this week. I would also like to take improv lessons after reading this becuase it sounds so cool!

Island Affair – 3/5 A light escape for the afternoon literally set in paradise. We had a fake relationship, some family drama and of course falling in love!

A Magical New York Christmas (not pictured) – 3.5/5 ARC from NetGalley, thank you for providing for my honest opinion. It’s a Hallmark movie, in book format in the literal perfect setting. Released on September 28th!

See you next week!

Love,

A

Book Review: The Ex Talk by Rachel Lynn Solomon

Rating: 4/5

Genre: Contemporary Romance and Adult Fiction

Warnings: Workplace misogyny, mentions of racial stereotyping, grief of a parent

Review:  Shay Goldstein’s life is public radio; she has spent her whole working career at this Seattle station and can’t imagine doing anything else. Dominic Yun is a new, idealistic journalist who’s just started at the station fresh from his master’s program. Shay and Dominic are constantly clashing (which I really didn’t see so much). When Shay pitches a new show to her boss, the Ex Talk, he decides the duo is perfect for it. To save the station from financial ruin and their jobs, Shay and Dominic agree to host the new show pretending to be exes giving advice to other people…as they spend more time together, they end up falling for each other. Can it really be that simple? What happens when their audience finds out they have been lied to?

This debut novel was adorable! It was light and funny but a little slow at times. There were some things I loved and things I wasn’t really a fan of. The public radio setting was awesome! I grew up listening to NPR with my Dad, it felt special to hear about in a book. There was a lot of intentional diversity but it didn’t feel forced. It really did feel like my friend group + a good representation of a modern family.

On the flip side, I didn’t think their connection was super strong (and I’ve heard this from friends too). At times, it just felt more like two lonely people that developed a friendship but bickered a lot and then liked each other. However, these characters were relatable for me. Creating adult friendships, moving to a new city, questioning one’s identity in a space are all hard things people deal with everyday…I know I have!

This would be a nice entrance into the romance novel scene and the ending really did tie things up nicely. I look forward to seeing what the author comes up for us next!

Things I loved: The diversity of these characters was amazing + interracial relationship…I was here for it! The setting of podcasting/public radio, the pop culture references and I really loved that Shay was older than Dominic (let’s normalize this friends!).

Things I didn’t care for: We didn’t need a friend fight, the workplace misogyny, the TWO make-up/break-ups, and how/why it was revealed they we’re actually ex’s.

Have you read the Ex Talk? What did you think?

Love,

A